I want to enjoy going to work, coming home, and leaving stress behind. That old cliché “Work does not seem like work” when you enjoy what you are doing rings true. After my abuse I realized that I do not want that 9-5 mundane job. If a job is a job, it is like a chore. I feel I have to give a percentage of my time and energy to produce an outcome that is rewarding and satisfying to others and myself. I had bad experiences with my supervisors or “bosses” that tried to be intimidating to the staff. I did not have personal days off and felt like the pay was not worth the sacrifice I was making. Currently, I am taking classes in writing, blogging, art, coaching, and public speaking, and workshops on entrepreneurship. I feel that being my own boss and having more “me” time is exactly what I was looking for. As children, many girls want to be teachers, nurses or moms. I used to be a paraprofessional at a school, a health aide in a home, and have a stepdaughter. I always knew that something was missing. “When you hit rock bottom a change can be good” – they say. I know my story is unique and is mine. Nobody can have the same story, even twins have different perceptions. I often give presentations on what happened to me and incorporate my drawings with my journaling in my talks. After falling ill and while on my path to recovery, I realized that less is more. My new “normal” is helping other abused women, giving back on Thanksgiving by serving, speaking about my story, and watching faces light up is all I can ask for.
We are a group of women who survived abuse from our intimate partners and then felt abused again by the systems we relied on. We preserve an atmosphere in which we feel comfortable enough to speak openly. We work together with respect; we support each other, but we are not a support group. We are an advocacy group, fighting to improve conditions for battered women.
– Lorna, Founding VOW Member
Great short story! Continue being a Light for yourself and other change agents!
I hear you! I’ve never wanted a 9-5, office job, doing something that I’m not passionate about. No thank you! Even if it’s VERY well paid. Not worth it! To me.
I enjoyed writinb this blog. My passions are art and writing.